The single most important factor that contributes to success is what you do every single day. It is as simple as that. You habits will determine whether you are successful or not. If you have strong and healthy positives habits, it does not matter whether or not you fail today because you are guaranteed to succeed in the long run. Having positive habits does not mean that you will succeed every single time. However, in the long run, there is no doubt that you will achieve all you goals and be successful. On the other hand, if you have strong negative habits, you are guaranteed to fail in the long run. It does not matter whether you succeed today or not. If your habits are self-destructive, you will fail in the long run.
Why are Habits so Important?
Because you repeat the same actions and the same behaviors every single day. A single positive action will not change your life, but the same action repeated 1 000 times will have a significant impact on your life. For example, if you go to the gym one time, you won’t see a big difference in your life. However, if you go to the gym 1 000 times over a five year period, you will see a big difference in your body. The same principle applies to finance, health, relationships, work, career, and school. Simple positive actions repeated every single day will have a tremendous impact on your life in the long run.
Guaranteed Success
When you have strong positive habits, it does not matter whether you fail right now or not, because you are guaranteed to succeed in the long run. Do you know the law of sowing and reaping? The law of sowing and reaping states that you reap what you sow. If you are always sowing good positive actions, the only logical result will be success. A man who has a strong work ethic and who has a clear goal will succeed no matter what. This man has developed the habit of working hard. It does not matter whether he fails an exam or miss a sale. The man will keep working until he succeeds. I am not worried about this man. He will be successful.
Guaranteed Failure
When you have negative habits, failure is guaranteed for you until you take the conscious decision to change you habits forever. Negative habits include overeating, gambling, smoking, drinking and taking drugs. However, let’s not forget those other negative habits that are often the real cause of failure. These negative habits are character traits that will stop you from achieving success. I’m talking about mental habits such as procrastination, laziness, fear, shyness, lack of courage, etc. Procrastination is the worst negative habit. It is a dream killer. Instead of taking action and working hard to achieve his goal, the procrastinator decides to delay and to wait until tomorrow. However, when tomorrow becomes today, the procrastinator keeps delaying. The only solution to his problem is to start taking action right now.
How to Develop Positive Habits
There’s nothing easier than developing positive habits. You simply have to do every single day the action you want to make a habit. If you want to develop the habit of running, run almost every day. If you want to develop the habit of eating healthy, eat healthy every day. If you want to develop the habit of reading, read every day. Habits are created by repetition. The more you do an action, the easier it becomes in the long run.
How to Eliminate Negative Habits
The only way to destroy negative habits is to stop reinforcing them. If you are a smoker, stop smoking. If you are a drug user, stop using drugs. If you are a procrastinator, stop procrastinating and start taking action right now. Yes, it will be very difficult at the beginning. The first week will be very hard. After three weeks, you will feel a lot better. Eliminating negative habits is hard because you associated a lot of pleasure to these habits in the past.
How Psychology Can Help
If you want to be successful in changing your habits, you should think about changing your inner beliefs about your habits. For example, your old belief was: “I love cigarette because it makes me feel good and relaxed. I need cigarette to be happy and relaxed.” If you keep this belief, you won’t be able to keep your resolution to stop smoking for very long. Instead, you should adopt this new belief: “I love yoga because it makes me feel good and relaxed. Cigarette is toxic and destroys my body. Yoga makes me happy.” You should analyze your beliefs and make sure they won’t stop you from changing your habits. The same is true when you try to form positive habits. If you want to start eating healthy food, here are some positive beliefs you should start thinking about: “Healthy food is very good for my health. It gives me a lot of energy and I feel very good.”
Action Plan
It’s now time for you to develop positive habits in your life and eliminate your negative habits. Write down 3 positive habits that you would like to develop and 3 negative habits that you would like to eliminate. For each positive habit, write down exactly what actions you’re going to take every single day in order to develop the new habit. For each negative habit, write down exactly what actions you’re not going to take in the next weeks. Here are some positives habits that will lead to success: exercise, healthy food, reading, saving, studying, healthy relationships, hard work, etc. Here are some negative habits to eliminate: gambling, drug and alcohol abuse, overeating, procrastination, shyness, etc.
You Can Do It!
Everybody can change. All it takes is courage and commitment. Decide right now to improve your life by changing your habits. Take action right now! Don’t be afraid. Yes, you will probably make mistakes along the way. But never forget that success is guaranteed for you if you have positive habits in your life. If you refuse to quit, success will be yours.
引導(dǎo)成功的唯一最重要的因素是你每一天所做的事情。就這么簡(jiǎn)單。你的習(xí)慣將會(huì)決定你成功與否。如果你有強(qiáng)大而且健康的積極的習(xí)慣,你現(xiàn)在是否失敗都無(wú)所謂,因?yàn)槟銓?lái)注定會(huì)成功。保有積極地習(xí)慣并不意味著你每一次都會(huì)成功。然而,從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)看來(lái),毫無(wú)疑問(wèn)你將會(huì)實(shí)現(xiàn)所有的目標(biāo),成為成功人士。相反,如果你有強(qiáng)大的消極的習(xí)慣,你將來(lái)注定會(huì)失敗。無(wú)論你現(xiàn)在成功與否。如果你的習(xí)慣是自我毀滅性的,你將來(lái)必定失敗。
為什么習(xí)慣如此重要?
因?yàn)槟忝恳惶於荚谥貜?fù)同樣的動(dòng)作和同樣的行為。一次積極的行動(dòng)不會(huì)改變你的人生,但是同樣的行動(dòng)重復(fù)1000次,將會(huì)對(duì)你的人生產(chǎn)生巨大的影響。比如,如果你去做一次健身,你看不到有什么大不同。然而,你5年里去做了1000次健身,你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你身體的大變化了。這對(duì)于理財(cái)、健康、人際關(guān)系、工作、職業(yè)和上學(xué)是同樣的道理。每一天都充分簡(jiǎn)單的積極地行動(dòng),將會(huì)對(duì)你以后的人生產(chǎn)生巨大的影響。
必定的成功
如果你有強(qiáng)大的積極地習(xí)慣,你現(xiàn)在失敗與否都無(wú)所謂,因?yàn)槟銓?lái)注定成功。你知道播種與收獲的道理嗎?這個(gè)道理是你將會(huì)收獲你播種的東西。如果你一直做良好的積極的事情,唯一符合邏輯的結(jié)果就是成功。一個(gè)有著良好的職業(yè)道德和明確的目標(biāo)的人無(wú)論怎樣都會(huì)成功。這個(gè)人已經(jīng)形成了努力工作的習(xí)慣。一次考試的失敗或是丟掉了一點(diǎn)銷售額都沒有關(guān)系。這個(gè)人會(huì)繼續(xù)努力知道成功。我不擔(dān)心這樣的人。他必定會(huì)成功。
必定的失敗
如果你有消極的習(xí)慣,你必定失敗,除非你主動(dòng)采取措施永遠(yuǎn)改掉這些習(xí)慣。消極的習(xí)慣包括暴飲暴食、賭博、吸煙、喝酒和吸毒。然而,我們不能忘記其他那些真正導(dǎo)致失敗的消極習(xí)慣。這些消極習(xí)慣是可能阻止你走向成功的性格特點(diǎn)。我指的是精神層面的習(xí)慣,例如浪費(fèi)時(shí)間、懶惰、膽小、害羞、缺乏勇氣,等等。浪費(fèi)時(shí)間是最壞的消極習(xí)慣。它是夢(mèng)想的殺手。非但不采取行動(dòng)為達(dá)到目標(biāo)努力工作,取而代之的是拖延,明日復(fù)明日。然而,當(dāng)明天變成了今天,仍舊在拖延。唯一的解決辦法就是立即行動(dòng)起來(lái)。
怎樣形成積極的習(xí)慣
沒有什么是比形成積極地習(xí)慣更簡(jiǎn)單的了。你只需要每一天都做你希望能形成習(xí)慣的事情。如果你想養(yǎng)成跑步的習(xí)慣,那就幾乎每天都去跑步。如果你想養(yǎng)成健康飲食的習(xí)慣,那么每天都吃健康食品。如果你想有閱讀的習(xí)慣,每天都閱讀。習(xí)慣是由重復(fù)養(yǎng)成的。你重復(fù)的越多,以后做起來(lái)就越容易。
怎樣摒棄消極的習(xí)慣
打破消極的習(xí)慣的唯一方式就是停止重復(fù)它們。如果你是個(gè)煙民,停止吸煙。如果你是個(gè)吸毒的人,停止吸毒。如果你是個(gè)磨蹭的人,停止拖沓并且現(xiàn)在就采取行動(dòng)。當(dāng)然,開始的時(shí)候?qū)?huì)很難。第一周將會(huì)很痛苦。三周以后,你就會(huì)感覺好一點(diǎn)了。摒棄掉消極的習(xí)慣是很難的,因?yàn)槟阍谶^(guò)去的許多樂趣都跟這些有關(guān)。
怎樣用心理學(xué)來(lái)幫助你
如果你想成功地改掉你的習(xí)慣,你應(yīng)該改變你內(nèi)心的關(guān)于這些習(xí)慣的想法。比如,你的舊觀念是:“我喜歡香煙,因?yàn)樗刮腋杏X很好很輕松。我需要香煙來(lái)使我快樂和放松。”如果你保有這樣的想法,那么你的戒煙行動(dòng)將不會(huì)持續(xù)很久。想反,如果你采取這樣的觀念:“我喜歡瑜伽,因?yàn)檫@使我感覺舒適而且放松。香煙是有害的并且破壞了我的健康。瑜伽使我快樂。”你應(yīng)該分析你的觀念,確保你不會(huì)停止改掉惡習(xí)。當(dāng)你試圖形成良好的習(xí)慣的時(shí)候也是同樣的道理。當(dāng)你想開始健康飲食的時(shí)候,你應(yīng)該開始想這些積極的觀念:“健康的食物對(duì)我的健康是有益的。它給我許多能量,我感覺非常好。”
行動(dòng)計(jì)劃
現(xiàn)在就是你形成生活中的積極地習(xí)慣改掉惡習(xí)的時(shí)候了。寫下3個(gè)你想形成的積極的習(xí)慣和3個(gè)你想改掉的消極的習(xí)慣。對(duì)于每一個(gè)積極的習(xí)慣,準(zhǔn)確的寫下你將每一天采取什么行動(dòng)來(lái)形成新的習(xí)慣。對(duì)于每一個(gè)消極的習(xí)慣,準(zhǔn)確的寫下你下周打算不做什么。這些是將會(huì)引導(dǎo)你成功的積極的習(xí)慣:鍛煉身體、健康飲食、閱讀、節(jié)儉、學(xué)習(xí)、健康的人際關(guān)系,努力工作,等等。這些是應(yīng)該改掉的消極的習(xí)慣:賭博、吸毒、嗜酒、暴飲暴食、拖沓、害羞,等等。
你能行
每個(gè)人都可以改變。這所需要的就是勇氣和承諾,F(xiàn)在就下定決心通過(guò)改變習(xí)慣來(lái)改善你的生活,F(xiàn)在就行動(dòng)起來(lái)。不要害怕。是的,你也許會(huì)在這條路上犯一些錯(cuò)誤。但是永遠(yuǎn)不要忘記如果你生活中有著積極的習(xí)慣,你必定會(huì)成功。如果你堅(jiān)持到底,成功注定屬于你