Think a little spanking won't do much harm to kids? New research says the effects can be long-lasting.
Experts say "popping" kids can do more harm than good. A new study of more than 2,500 toddlers from low-income families found that spanking may have detrimental effects on behavior and mental development.
Children who were spanked as 1-year-olds tended to behave more aggressively at age 2, and did not perform as well as other children on a test measuring thinking skills at age 3.
Although these effects were somewhat small, the study is just the latest of many supporting psychologists' advice against spanking. Still, some experts say spanking has a time and place.
The new study focused on children from low-income families because prior research suggested that spanking is more common among them, Berlin said. This may be because of the added stresses of parenting in a low-income situation, or because of a "cultural contagion" of behaviors among people. For example, in some families this study examined, a grandmother would spank a child, or neighbors would encourage physical discipline.
About one-third of the 1-year-olds, and about half of the 2- and 3-year-olds, had been spanked in the previous week. At all three ages, African-American children were spanked significantly more frequently than those from white and Mexican-American families, and verbally punished more than the other children at ages 2 and 3.
Previous research had also found that parents who spank are more likely to be younger, less educated, single, and/or depressed and stressed. Spanking is most commonly used among parents who were spanked themselves, who live in the South, and/or who identify themselves as conservative Christians. These parents also tend to believe in the effectiveness of spanking or believe the child is at fault in a given situation.
More aggressive children are more likely to be spanked. On the other hand, children who were fussier at age 1 were more likely to be spanked and verbally punished.
Some remain unconvinced that parents should never spank their children.
The best use of spanking is in children between the ages of 2 and 6 when milder discipline tactics, such as time out, fail.
That's why psychologists trained parents to use spanking that way for 25 years [from the] late '60s to mid-'90s. Now, the trend of advice is away from spanking, but there's not much hard evidence to support it.
If the mother sees this fussiness as willful misbehavior and begins verbally punishing or spanking, rather than empathizing with the child, the child's behavior deteriorates into more tantrums and other frustrating behavior.
Children are too young to understand when parenting behavior is wrong, even at the level of abuse. Physical violence gets passed down in families because the only parenting skills people know are the behaviors that they saw at home.
Spanking, moreover, reinforces negative memories in the child's mind. Parents should aim instead to build "prominent, happy memories" of childhood for their kids.
Regardless of income level, all parents can benefit from training classes.
認(rèn)為偶爾打次屁股不會(huì)對(duì)孩子造成很大的傷害?但最近的調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn)打孩子的屁股會(huì)造成長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的影響。
專家說(shuō)"啪啪"的打孩子所造成的傷害遠(yuǎn)大于它的好處。一項(xiàng)對(duì)2500名來(lái)自低收入家庭的幼兒的最新調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn),打屁股會(huì)對(duì)孩子的行為和心理發(fā)展造成有害的影響。
在一歲的時(shí)候被打屁股的孩子會(huì)在兩歲的時(shí)候有攻擊性行為的趨勢(shì),并且三歲的時(shí)候,在一項(xiàng)測(cè)量理性思維能力的測(cè)試中不能很好的和其他孩子一起完成。
雖然這些影響是很微小的,但是這項(xiàng)研究最近正好支持了那些心理學(xué)家提出的有關(guān)反對(duì)打屁股的建議。
"最近的調(diào)查把目標(biāo)集中在了那些低收入家庭的孩子,因?yàn)橄惹暗恼{(diào)查提出打屁股在低收入家庭更普遍。"貝林說(shuō)。這事是因?yàn)樵诘褪杖氲那闆r下,父母會(huì)更容易增加壓力,或者因?yàn)樗^的在人們中間的"文化傳播"行為。例如,這些研究中發(fā)現(xiàn),在一些家庭,如果一位祖母打了孩子屁股,她的鄰居便會(huì)更傾向于這種體罰。
大約有三分之一的一歲年齡的兒童和二分之一的兩歲到三歲的兒童在早些的時(shí)候被打過(guò)屁股。所有三歲年齡的美籍非裔的孩子要比那些白人和墨西哥人家庭中的孩子受到更多的打屁股懲罰,而且受到的口頭上的斥責(zé)也要比其他的那些二到三歲的孩子多很多。
前面的調(diào)查也發(fā)現(xiàn)了,打屁股這種懲罰更多的再那些年輕,缺少教育,單親,有抑郁癥和有壓力的那些父母中使用。打屁股這種體罰在那些父母間相互毆打,在南部居住和傳統(tǒng)的基督徒家庭中更被普遍的應(yīng)用。這些家庭的的父母認(rèn)為在孩子犯錯(cuò)誤的時(shí)候打屁股是一種有效方法。
越有攻擊性的孩子越有可能被打過(guò)屁股。另一面那些一歲左右的挑剔的孩子,越有可能被打屁股和口頭上的斥責(zé)。
那些對(duì)此持懷疑態(tài)度的家長(zhǎng)們最好別再打孩子的屁股了。
打屁股最好在孩子兩歲到六歲的時(shí)候,當(dāng)那些溫和的懲罰措施不能夠給他們教訓(xùn)的時(shí)候使用,比如
不及格和不按時(shí)回家。
這就是為什么心里學(xué)家會(huì)持續(xù)25年教導(dǎo)父母怎么使用打屁股這種體罰手段,(從60年代末到90年代中期).現(xiàn)在的趨勢(shì)是勸導(dǎo)父母不再使用這種手段,但是仍然有很多強(qiáng)有力的證據(jù)支持打屁股這種體罰手段。
如果一位媽媽發(fā)現(xiàn)了孩子的挑剔的,任性的不當(dāng)行為,開(kāi)始訓(xùn)斥或者打孩子的屁股要比慣著孩子,讓孩子的脾氣更暴躁,產(chǎn)生更壞的行為要好的多。
孩子太小從而不能分辨出父母的行為的對(duì)錯(cuò),雖然有時(shí)父母的行為時(shí)錯(cuò)的,甚至是到了虐待的水平。暴力行為會(huì)在家庭中傳遞下去,因?yàn)橹挥懈改傅男袨槭撬麄冊(cè)趦H能在家中看到的。
此外,打屁股會(huì)增加孩子記憶中的負(fù)面影響,家長(zhǎng)應(yīng)該在孩子小的時(shí)候給他們建立一個(gè)愉悅的,快樂(lè)的童年記憶。
忽略收入水平的原因,所有的家長(zhǎng)都可以從培訓(xùn)班中得到益處