There are plenty of questions: How long this pain last? When will the empty feelings pass? But everyday no matter how you try to forget things, it’s still sweeping you like a sharp rake. You tried to continue with your daily routines but you are kept wondering, how long will I be feeling this?

Welcome to the world of broken hearts! But hey, don’t die but embrace yourself because you’re not the only one who is feeling this way.

I felt it, our parents were broken hearted before they met each other and had a successful marriage and even ended in a divorce as well. Reality bites but change is inevitable but suffering is a choice. There’s no easy way to fix your broken heart. TRUE!

But with slow day to day, you would be healed and when that day comes you would thank the Lord for unanswered prayers. Here are some good ways to heal from a broken heart.

Music is the language of the soul – listen to music, whatever kind of music. If you want to cry with the love song ok you can cry. But make sure you will drink water because you may dehydrate. Joke! You will just come to the point that you are tired of crying anymore. That’s because when you cry chemical imbalance in your brain slowly fades. Do you know crying is a good way to relax and it even cleans your eyes. Notice that when you cried for too long hours there would come a time that you would stop and feel better.

Write and read – if you want to express do it in writing. Write to God I call it “knee mails”, and then you can burn it. Burning something is like a ritual that makes your subconscious feels you’re ending a chapter. Reading can relax your brain, so read.

Visit Poor Momma – maybe you have been gone for so long already, you forgot you still have a mother or good friends in your hometown. It’s time to visit them, this makes you feel refreshed with the memories of what you were long time ago – happy! With your family and friend’s support you would feel sympathized! As a human we want to be sympathized! Actually women handle break-up better than men because of the world sympathy. Girls can open up with anyone about their feelings and feel that there are people who still cared for them.

Regain your faith by meditation – guided meditation helps, trust me. You know how? - Because through meditation you can listen to yourself. Your subconscious is already shouting S-O-S! There are plenty of guided meditations; I actually like Kelly Howell’s CD’s. I can relate to her ways because she’s a girl. Form a habit of listening over and over again. Forming a habit is 21 days or 3 weeks of continuous repetitions. You’ll be surprise of the outcomes.

Treat and pamper yourself – when was the last time you had a body spa? What about your hair? When did the last time you went to a nail parlor? What about your wardrobe? This is the best time to go out and spoil yourself as long as you are following the rule of the thumb: Don’t spend what you can’t afford to lose.

Acceptance – accept the pain and deal with it slowly everyday not in bulk. God made the world in 6 days and rested in the 7th day, what more for you that you’re only His child? Slowly feel the grief, the start, the middle and the end. After that, you’d feel better and even more thankful about the break-up. Let go.

You still have life after the break-up as long as the world revolves. If a door closes, another opens up. Don’t be busy staring at the closed doors, it’s like close curtain already that means their story in your life already ended and you should move on.

你會(huì)有很多問(wèn)題要問(wèn):傷痛要持續(xù)多久?空虛的感覺(jué)何時(shí)才能結(jié)束?但是,無(wú)論每天你多么努力想要忘記那些事情,它們?nèi)匀幌皲h利的耙子一樣劃過(guò)心靈。你努力使自己專注于每天的工作但無(wú)時(shí)無(wú)刻想知道,這種感受還要持續(xù)多久?

歡迎來(lái)到“傷心世界”!嘿,不要感到漠然,給自己一個(gè)擁抱吧,因?yàn)椴粌H僅你一個(gè)人有這種感受。

我有過(guò)這種傷心的感受,我們的父母在遇到對(duì)方并且擁有美好的婚姻之前也曾有過(guò)絕望或傷心的經(jīng)歷甚至也會(huì)離婚。現(xiàn)實(shí)會(huì)使你感覺(jué)心痛,但改變也是不可避免的,痛苦只是一種選擇。沒(méi)有簡(jiǎn)單的辦法修復(fù)破碎的心。真的!

但是,隨著時(shí)間的推移,你的傷痛會(huì)慢慢治愈,當(dāng)那一天到來(lái)的時(shí)候,你會(huì)感謝上帝。下面有一些能幫助你治愈傷痛的辦法。

1、音樂(lè)是一種心靈的語(yǔ)言——聽(tīng)歌吧,無(wú)論什么音樂(lè)都行。當(dāng)你聽(tīng)愛(ài)情歌曲時(shí),如果你想哭,那就哭吧!但是,記得喝水,因?yàn)榭奁�的時(shí)候有可能脫水。開(kāi)個(gè)玩笑!你會(huì)哭厭倦的,那是因?yàn)楫?dāng)你哭泣的時(shí)候,大腦里的化學(xué)不平衡會(huì)慢慢消失。你知道嗎,哭泣是一種很好的放松方法,甚至能幫助你清潔你的眼睛。請(qǐng)注意,當(dāng)你哭到一定時(shí)間的時(shí)候,你會(huì)停下而且會(huì)感到舒服多了。

2、寫(xiě)信和讀書(shū),如果你想抒發(fā)感情,那就寫(xiě)信吧!寫(xiě)給上帝,我把這樣的信叫做“膝關(guān)節(jié)郵件”,然后你可以燒掉它。燒掉某些東西就像一種儀式一樣,讓你下意識(shí)里覺(jué)得你正在對(duì)某些事情做一個(gè)了斷。讀書(shū)也能放松你的大腦,讀書(shū)也是不錯(cuò)的方法。

3、看望你的母親——也許你已經(jīng)離家很久了,你都忘了家鄉(xiāng)還有你的母親或者好朋友了�，F(xiàn)在正是去看望她們的時(shí)候,這會(huì)讓你回憶起很過(guò)已經(jīng)逝去的快樂(lè)時(shí)光,也能使你重新振作起來(lái)。有家人和朋友的支持,你一定會(huì)得到他們的同情的!做為一個(gè)人,我們是需要同情的!事實(shí)上,相比男人,女人們更加會(huì)對(duì)待一顆受傷的心,因?yàn)樗齻兌�得同情。女孩子能�?duì)任何一個(gè)人敞開(kāi)心菲并且感覺(jué)到還是有人關(guān)心她們的。

4、通過(guò)沉思重新恢復(fù)你的信仰——相信我，引導(dǎo)冥想是有幫助的。你知道如何做嗎？通過(guò)冥想能夠聆聽(tīng)內(nèi)心的聲音，潛意識(shí)里你已經(jīng)開(kāi)始呼救了。有很多引導(dǎo)冥想，我自己就非常喜歡Kelly Howell的CD。我能理解她，因?yàn)樗�也是個(gè)女孩兒。養(yǎng)成堅(jiān)持聽(tīng)歌的習(xí)慣，堅(jiān)持聽(tīng)歌21天或者說(shuō)三個(gè)星期，你會(huì)有驚喜的發(fā)現(xiàn)。

5、寵愛(ài)一下你自己——你最后一次身體水療是什么時(shí)候？你的頭發(fā)怎么樣？最后一次去指甲美容店是什么時(shí)候？你的衣柜呢？這種時(shí)候是出門的最好時(shí)機(jī)，寵愛(ài)一下你自己，只要在自己的能力能承受的范圍之內(nèi)就行。

6、接受——學(xué)會(huì)接受痛苦并每天慢慢消化。上帝花了6天時(shí)間創(chuàng)造這個(gè)世界，在第7天用來(lái)休息，而你只是上帝的孩子。慢慢感受悲傷，從其開(kāi)始到其結(jié)束。慢慢地你的感覺(jué)會(huì)好起來(lái)，甚至?xí)�感謝這樣的經(jīng)歷。加油吧！

世界在前進(jìn)，你的生命也在繼續(xù)。當(dāng)一扇門關(guān)閉的時(shí)候，一定會(huì)有另一扇門向你敞開(kāi)。不要緊緊盯著那扇已經(jīng)關(guān)閉的門，它就像已經(jīng)合上的窗簾一樣，這段故事在你的生拿中已經(jīng)結(jié)束了，你應(yīng)該大步邁向前進(jìn)。