How we view the ourselves, others and the world has a profound effect on the quality of our lives. Change your perspective and see miraculous changes in your world.
What do you want to be when you grow up? Ask this question to an eight year old and you will receive an answer full of wonder and inspiration. You will hear unbelievable things. Children are full of wonder and hope.
In their beautiful little minds, failure is not is not even a remote possibility. They don't know howit will happen, but they believethat it will. They have faith that they can do anything. Children have excellent vision.
Our vision becomes clouded and obscured over time. Someone tells us something negative about who we are, and our vision of how we see our “self” gets blurry. People around us tell us we cannot have, do or be whatever we want, because those wonderful things only happen to select people, and so how we view the possibility of achieving our dreams is now out of focus. We are told life is hard; people cannot be trusted, either through the fearful words of others or our own experience. We are told negative things about people of different races, genders, sexual preferences and political or religious views. Now our vision of how we see the world and everyone in it is distorted.
Things happen in life and we develop a sort of spiritual myopia. We walk around with a distorted view of ourselves, the world and others. But vision can be corrected. The great thing about vision is that the thing we are viewing has not changed; only our perception and perspective have. Those of us who wear glasses know this. When I look at a book or an object too far away, my vision is blurry. I cannot make out the words, and sometimes I view words incorrectly. I can make a mistake if I base a decision on the misread words or the incorrect interpretation of the object. When I put on my glasses, however, everything comes into focus. Things are now seen clearly.
There is a story in the Bible of a man who was healed from being blind all his life.
When he was first asked what he saw, he said “I see men as trees, walking”. Now the men had not changed at all, they were men, however, his perception ofthem was off- clearly the men were not trees. Sometimes, the vision in our own lives is just like that.
We incorporate one fearful piece of advice or have a bad experience and start to view everything we see and experience from that point on through that lens. Eric
Butterworth, spiritual teacher and author, states “Our job is not to set things right but to see them right.” And so, in seeing things correctly we start to improve our vision.
How do you view the world? Is it a beautiful place full of amazing things and people? Or is it an awful place we must endure until we are fortunate enough to finally leave? On what things are you focusing?
Are you concentrating and complaining about things and people that are not working in your life or are you concentrating on what is good? Are you looking at what you don't have, or what the things for which you are grateful?
What's right with you, the world and life, is just as true and infinitely more powerful that what is wrong. What we believe impacts what we see. We are created by a Power much bigger than us (call it The Creator, God, the Universe or whatever you choose - we won't argue semantics or religion here) that created us out of love, and wishes good things for us. Just embracing and affirming that one belief can change your entire life. It is the difference between seeing circumstances as horrible events that happen to us, or viewing them as temporary assignments to help us grow. It can change our view of ourselves and our ability to succeed.
Practically, we can do a few things to improve our vision immediately.
Change the way you view yourself.
Make a list of 100 great things about YOU. What do you do well? What do you like about yourself? Of what things or accomplishments are you most proud? Use this list to clear up your vision. Pick a few a day, write them down and tape them up somewhere in a place that you will see them daily. Start to see yourself as successful, worthy and wonderful.
Change the way you view others.
When you are frustrated with someone, no matter what they've done, they still have some good qualities. Make a list of great things about others, whether it's a race of people you've been taught to dislike or fear, or a person at work who drives you crazy. Is your boss really creative? Is your sister a great cook? Is a co-worker a great problem solver? You will develop a new appreciation for people that you may not have had before.
Change the way you view life.
Make a gratitude list. Create a list, daily, of everything in your life for which you are thankful. Are you healthy? Do you have really great friends who support you? Maybe it is a garden that provides you with beautiful fresh flowers to look at. No matter what is going on, we always have something to celebrate.
Read inspirational books to help. Sometimes we all need a shift in perspective.
Develop a broader vision for your life.
What DO you want to be when you grow up? Decide to create your life based upon your own vision, not the vision, fears and expectations of others. Explore your dreams, pick one at a time and pursue it with abandon. If you're having difficulty with this, seek out a coach or consultant to for support and accountability to get it done.
We live in a world full of infinite possibility-we only have to tap into it. You are full of unlimited potential, and the minute you acknowledge and affirm this truth, possibilities will unfold miraculously before you. Once you change our vision, your life will become immediately more exciting, meaningful and joyful. Good begins to find you everywhere you go!
我們看待自己、他人以及世界的方式對我們的生活質(zhì)量有著深遠影響
長大后你想成為什么?問8歲小孩這個問題,你將會得到一個驚奇而又富有靈感的答案。同樣你會聽到一些難以置信的話,因為孩子們都充滿了好奇和希望。
在孩子們小小的腦袋里,失敗是絲毫不存在的。他們不知道那是怎樣發(fā)生的,但是他們相信有失敗的存在。他們有信心做任何事情。因為孩子們有著極佳的視覺。
但隨著時間的流失,我們的視覺會逐漸變得模糊不清?傆行┤嗽谙麡O的影響著我們,因而我們的視覺變得模糊了,不能正確看待自己了。周圍的人總會告訴我們不要、不能做一些我們所想做的事情,因為他們總認為好的東西總是在挑剔人,人不能去挑自己想要的,因此我們也逐漸淡忘了那些實現(xiàn)夢想的可能性。我們總會被告誡生活是艱苦的、周圍的人不可信,這些告誡要么來自別人,要么來自自己的親身經(jīng)歷。我們聽過很多關(guān)于不同種族、性別、性偏好以及政治或宗教觀點的負面信息。現(xiàn)在我們看世界和所有人的視覺都已經(jīng)被歪曲了。
對于生活中發(fā)生的一切,我們都產(chǎn)生了一種心靈近視。我們游蕩在一個自己、世界以及他人視覺都扭曲的環(huán)境中。但是視覺是可以糾正的。視覺的一大優(yōu)點是它并不會改變我們所看到的事物本身,只是我們的觀點看法發(fā)生了變化。戴眼鏡的人對此應該了解。當摘掉眼睛看遠處的書或物體時,我的視野就變得模糊了,識別不出那是什么字,有時還會認錯字。如果我讀錯了一個字或誤解了一個東西,基于此再作決定,那我就要犯錯了。當我戴上眼鏡,一切都進入視野,就可以看得清晰了。
圣經(jīng)中有一個故事,說的是一個終身眼盲的人恢復視力后,當他首次睜開眼睛時,人們問他看到了什么,他回答說“我看見人像樹一樣可以行走”。到現(xiàn)在人們也一點都沒有改變,觀點還是不清晰,弄不明白人并不是樹。有時,我們在生活中視覺就像這樣模糊。
我們將曾經(jīng)聽到的一句嚇人勸告或曾經(jīng)的不好經(jīng)歷摻雜進入了自己的視覺,并以此為透鏡來觀察我們所看到的一切。
心靈教師及作家巴特沃思,說“我們的工作不是把糾正事物,而是正確看待他們”。因此正確看待事物我們后才能開始改善自己的視覺。
你是怎樣看待世界呢?它是一個到處有令人驚奇的事和人的地方嗎?還是它是個糟糕的地方,要忍耐直到我們死去?你關(guān)心的是什么呢?
你是專注于生活中不和諧的人和事物并不斷抱怨還是專注于生活中好的一面?你是關(guān)注你所沒有的東西還是關(guān)注于你所感激的事物上?
合適你的世界和生活就是那個真實的并且比不合適你的那個要更加無限強大。我們的信仰影響著我們的視覺。人類是由能量遠大于我們自身的超能創(chuàng)造的(我們稱之為造物主,上帝,宇宙或其他稱呼---在這里我們不主張語意或宗教意義),這種超能出于愛創(chuàng)造了人類,并期望好運降臨到人類身上。擁有一種信仰吧,相信它能改變我們的整個人生。這與我們身上發(fā)生的可怕事件情形不同,也不同于把他們看作暫時被委派來幫助我們成長。這種信仰能改變我們的觀點以及我們達到成功的能力。
實際上,我們可以做若干事情來立即改善我們的視覺
改變對自己的看法
做個清單,寫下你自己的100個優(yōu)點。你做的怎樣?你有多喜歡自己?你最自豪的事情或成就是什么?用這個清單來澄清你的視覺。每天記一點,并把它放在一個醒目的位置,這樣你每天都可以看到。從現(xiàn)在開始要把自己看成是成功的、有價值和出色的。
改變對他人的看法
如果你被別人打擊受挫了,不管他們做了什么,他們?nèi)匀挥幸恍┖玫钠返。做個清單紀錄他人的優(yōu)點,不管他是否來自你討厭或害怕的種族,或者是工作中讓你厭惡的人。你的老板很有創(chuàng)造性嗎?你的姐妹能燒一手好菜嗎?你的工作搭檔是個解決問題的能手嗎?如果他們有諸如此類似的優(yōu)點,你都可以記下來。這樣你將學會賞識別人。
改變你對生活的看法
做一個致謝清單。每天做一個清單,將你生活中一切值得感激的事情都紀錄下來。諸如:你健康嗎?你有支持你的好朋友嗎?或許這是個讓你欣賞新鮮美麗花朵的花園,不管發(fā)生了什么,我們總會有值得慶祝的事。
拓寬你的生活視野
長大后你想做什么?用你自己的視覺去創(chuàng)造你的生活,而不是別人的視覺、擔憂和期望。探尋你的夢想,挑出一個并大膽追尋。如果遇到困難,就求助于教練或顧問,并解決它。
我們生活在一個無限可能的世界,只有去步步深入。你有無限潛能,你所了解和掌握的只是微小部分,一切可能都將會奇跡般的展現(xiàn)在我們眼前。一旦你改變自己的視覺,你的生活就會馬上變得更加令人興奮,同時也更加有意義且充滿了歡樂。好運也將不斷跟隨著你!